5 Moms Give Legit “New Mom” Advice

I am so excited about this post, for several reasons. I may be biased because I have history with these ladies but I think that all of these moms you’re about to hear from are super heroes. I’ve watched them all embrace motherhood while successfully juggling both their personal and professional lives. You’ll see that they all have very different professions, yet there is one thing that links them together – the love for their little babes.  I have asked most of them for advice repeatedly over the past few months…their positivity, stories, and wise words have provided me guidance and reassurance to know they’ve been there, done that, themselves.

Selfishly, I wanted their new mom advice for my own use, but more importantly, no one is more credible than those who have walked the walk, and I wanted to share with my readers as well. They have a lot to say so I won’t bore you with any more of my amateur pregnancy mumbo jumbo (for today.)

I’ve linked their instagram (my social media addiction) profiles below with their names, so you can follow their journey’s and see a million more adorable photos of their little ones.


Angie 

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+ Grayson (1 year) *as seen in cover photo

Profession : Dance Instructor/Studio Owner

Fun Fact: Craig and I reunited (before we started dating) at Angie’s bachelorette party in Nashville, TN. 2.5 years later, Angie has a one year old, and we have our own ‘lil one on the way!

  • Favorite Product: Boppy Pillow – It is great thing to have through the months for nursing, tummy time, learning to sit up, feedings as the baby grows, and more.

“As a new mom I felt very overwhelmed with the fact that I had to care for another human and be able to give it everything it needed as it grows.  But I learned that you cannot let the little things get the best of you and everything will be okay.  Read the baby books, because they are very helpful.  Although most things are instinct and come naturally as a mother, I still find myself referring back to the books for information.   Most importantly, every baby is different.  So every mom that shares their stories and gives you their opinion on your child, your methods, etc., just take what you want and discard the rest….don’t think too much about it.  Everyone has their opinion and most the time it doesn’t even apply to you.  Teaching at a dance studio, you can only imagine how much advice I got from moms in the hallway.  I appreciated it all of course, but a lot of it wasn’t necessary or relevant to me at all!

Write everything down!  Even if it seems silly at the time, you are going to want to look back to see when little things happen.  You will be surprised how easily some little things are forgotten.  Enjoy every moment with your little one, but most importantly….sleep when they sleep.  Cleaning and organizing can wait.  You NEED your sleep to keep your sanity, believe me!

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Being a mom is seriously the best thing in the world, although sometimes you get extremely stressed and emotional.  That’s all part of it….but don’t forget to enjoy every moment.  Everyone says it goes so fast….until you experience it, you don’t understand how fast it truly goes.  Don’t wish everything away so quickly.  Of course you are excited to see your child grow and learn, but don’t push it.  You want them to learn to crawl, but then you miss how they just snuggle you constantly.  You are so excited to see them walk, but then you miss not having to chase them around.  Let them learn at their own pace and enjoy the moment you are in.”


 Sarah

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+ Peyton aka Ms. P (7 months)

Profession: Marketing Project Manager/Account Supervisor

Fun Fact: I knew Sarah was pregnant when I bought her a bottle of Pinot Grigio for “Bachelor wine night” and she didn’t pour a glass right away 🍷

“Be confident, but don’t be too afraid to accept help! After having your little one, when you’re in the hospital about to be released to take them home with you for the first time, it can be a little scary (ok, a lot scary!) thinking about caring for this tiny fragile little baby all on your own. No more nurses on standby to help when you need it, to show you the perfect swaddle (for the fifth time), to give you advice on how to bathe your baby. But let’s be honest, no matter how much support you have, how many books you’ve read, nothing is ever going to fully prepare you and make you feel 100% comfortable with what you are doing. But that’s a normal feeling! Everyone is anxious and nervous, don’t let it get the best of you – enjoy this precious time and be confident in yourself.

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After your first couple of nights at home with your peanut, you will naturally feel much more confident caring for them. Also, don’t be afraid to take your neighbor up on that casserole they offered to bring by. Most new moms are too afraid to ask for or accept help, but as you adjust to this new lifestyle, accept all the help you can get! I understand you want your baby all to yourselves and you don’t have to give that up. Accept help with everything else – the cooking, cleaning, laundry – so you don’t have to worry about anything but your little one those first few weeks. You will have enough to think about and those close to you will enjoy helping in any way they can – so let them!”


Stephanie

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 Dominic (8.5 years) | Lucas (2.5 years) | Mia (5 months)

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Profession: Business Owner @ Stephanie’s Cupcake Company 

Fun fact: Stephanie tried out ~24 part time jobs to help provide for her family, before discovering her niche as a successful business owner [currently bowing down to this lady]

“Being a mom of three, 2 boys and a girl, has led to plenty of experiences, good, bad, scary, happy, emotional, hilarious, you name it! You can PLAN for these things, but you can’t predict them. People also ask me all the time, “so three kids, that’s a lot. Was it hard to go from 2 kids to 3 kids?” My answer is “no! It’s not HARD. It’s challenging but in a good way!” But it’s also no joke!

The first few weeks when your baby arrives are an adjustment for everyone. Don’t be hard on yourself. Relax when you can, the laundry can wait. Order in food instead of cooking and cleaning for a while, and if possible, sleep when they sleep! Your healing is so important to make you a better you! Some days will be long… some will fly by, but tomorrow always comes. Enjoy those early times because you can’t get them back!

If you are going to listen to people talk, pick positive people! If you sit and think about it too long, (how busy you might be, how tired you might be, the messes, tantrums, late to appointments) then you may freak yourself out. Be aware that ANYTHING can happen, but that you can also handle ANYTHING! Women are UNBELIEVABLE. I have never been so proud of myself as I am being able to say I have completed another day successfully raising two children under 2 years of age! It’s an amazing feeling. My advice? It’s ok to be late. Messes happen as fast as you can clean them, so do it later and love on them now. You may be tired, but someday you won’t be, and you might actually miss it after all.

Never did I know, nor will I ever understand how a heart can be so full!


Molly 

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+ Grady (4 months)

Profession: Construction Estimator

Fun Fact: Grady weighed 10lbs, 10oz at birth & at 3 months, he was already in 9-12M clothing. I think Molly has a future athlete on her hands!

  • Favorite Product: Vibrating, bouncy chairs. I have one upstairs and one downstairs. Grady was born big so I’ve been able to use it almost since Day One.

“Don’t forget about “mommy-time.” This is key especially in the first few weeks after you come home with your bundle of joy. Actually, this is still pretty critical for me after 4 months! Don’t let go of things that keep you, YOU. Go take a nap when grandma comes over. Go take a shower (without having to sit your baby outside the door). My friends and family used to make fun of me because I have always needed “Molly-time.” While time to myself looks a little different these days, it is still very important to my mental state.”


 Hanah 


+ Beau (2.5 years)

Profession: Commercial Portfolio Manager

Fun Fact: Hanah is the hottest red head I know… & it looks like she passed down those luscious locks to Beau!

“Lay your baby in the crib as early and often as possible. Because I breastfed, I thought it was easier to sleep with Beau on my lap (on a boppy) for easy access when be was hungry. I was so tired I didn’t want to keep laying him down and then getting him up every time to feed. He got used to sleeping on my body and feeling my heartbeat and body heat. Here I am 2.5 years later and he is in my bed every night at about 2am.

Don’t be afraid to reach out for help. Beau had reflux/GERD and cried pretty much all day every day until he was about 4 months old. My husband was working and when I was still on leave I tried to just “handle it” because I was the mom and I was at home. There were days when I just wanted someone to take Beau for an hour so I could shower or take a nap. Looking back my friends say “why didn’t you call me when Brad was at work or on the weekends? I would have helped.” Don’t be afraid to reach out to friend and family and just say “I need a break”, “I need time to relax” …or take a bath, or run and get a coffee. People will help and anyone can handle a crying baby for at least an hour. I also should have told my husband I was struggling and tired. I tried to be so tough but I needed him to help more with the baby. He eventually learned but in the beginning it was hard. Next time he will be helping more because I won’t try and act like I can handle being awake 24/7.”


As always, thanks for reading, and thanks to Angie, Sarah, Stephanie, Molly & Hanah for contributing to this post. Feel free to provide your own best mama advice below if you feel so inclined. Talk soon!

❤ Kayla

3 thoughts on “5 Moms Give Legit “New Mom” Advice

  1. Molly’s post says it all with her favorite product being a vibrating seat and the need for mommy time. A new baby brings equal parts joy and exhaustion. When you can make yourself do it, try to rest and skip the chores.

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